For some reason, I'm not feeling okay for the last few weeks and there's this one Kdrama that I'm thinking to binge-watch to remind me that it's okay to feel this way, it's okay to be vulnerable, it's okay to cry, it's okay to not be not be okay. 

This kdrama was the 2020's Most Popular Show in the Romance Genre on Netflix in South Korea and this was also named as one of the 2020's Best International Show by New York Times. This Kdrama is "It's Okay To Not Be Okay."

The story follows a selfless psych caretaker played by Kim Soo-hyun, an antisocial children books writer played by Seo Yea-ji and Kim Soo-hyun's autistic older brother played by Oh Jung-se and their process of overcoming past traumas and healing from emotional wounds. 

While watching this, I was enlightened and now I am getting started in healing my emotional wounds and I thought of sharing with you the most memorable and relatable lines of It's Okay To Not Be Okay to help you in fighting your silent battles, too. 


1. Season 1 Episode 3: Sleeping Witch 
"Do you really believe that? That we'll be fine once we accept reality."

Have you ever ask that, too? 

As a writer, when reality hurts so bad, I shut down from the real world and find solace in my imaginary world but I know, I should not dwell in there forever. I should get up and yes, "accept" things for what they are just like what Ko Moon-young said. 

Pretending you're okay when in reality you're not will not ends your problem. It will just be there, buried deep into your heart. And it will burden your every day life. 

While accepting the reality that you're not okay is the first step to overcome it. Be honest to yourself that things are hard at this moment and that makes you feel not okay. Then decide what you can do that's within your control. You can control your attitude. Choose to have a positive attitude amidst the negative situation. 

"When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!" 

2. Season 1 Episode 4: Zombie Kid
"You also won't be able to understand me until the day you die" 

When Ko Moon-young said the line, "you also won't be able to understand me" it really breaks my heart for her because I know exactly how it feels when no one understands you. 

I am the type of person who asked, "how's your heart?" Always checking up on my friends and ready to listen to them that they thought I'm alright, never bothered by the struggles I experience in life.

But even a strong person needs someone to be there for her/him sometimes. And just a listening ears helps a lot. You don't have to give advice. Just lend a listening ear with an understanding heart. 

And if you can't, just be kind because we don't know what other people go through in life. Why they are the way they are. 

Maybe when we live like this, the world will be a better place. 

3. Season 1 Episode 7: The Cheerful Dog 
"When you're tired, get some rest. When you're sad, go ahead and cry. It's okay to take a break. Then one day, there will surely come a day when you'll be able to run again." 

This is Director Oh of OK Psychiatric Hospital  talking to a patient diagnosed with psychotic depression, which she developed after losing her daughter to a car accident.

Your situation may be different from the patient but you can really apply this to your life.

For what is the world we're living in? It's a big OK Psychiatric Hospital with many patients out there who are not dressed in hospital gowns. Everyone has their own struggles in life. 

So when you're tired - mentally - in all the planning, analyzing, worrying and figuring things out in your mind. Give your busy mind a rest. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Go out for a walk. Connect with nature. 

And when you are sad, cry it out. It's a good way to release the stress inside. 

And hold on to the day when you'll be able to think again clearly or smile again genuinely. 

4. Season 1 Episode 9: King Donkey Ears
"If you keep a secret to yourself, you end up getting frustrated. You need to tell someone to relieve your stress."

I used to keep my problems with myself because I feel like I'm not heard nor understood. 

But three years ago, few friends came along and made me feel that I am listened and understood and my story is safe with them. 

And it was so amazing that those built-up tension that has been buried deep into my heart has finally been released. It brought up clarity in my head and I was able to build a new perspective and make new decisions to move forward in my life.

If you're someone who's not comfortable talking your problems, I hope you'll also find trusted friends to help you get through stressful times. 

5. Season 1 Episode 9: King Donkey Ears
"No, I need to get through this on my own. I will get through this. I promise you that I'll fully recover. Wait for me. I won't take long."

This scene of Joo Jeong-ta, a patient who was admitted to the hospital for alcoholism and Lee Ah-reum, a patient who was admitted for anxiety is a perfect example that healing look different from others. For some it takes a short time and for some it takes more time. There is no timetable for healing. So be patient with yourself. 

6. Season 1 Episode 10: The Girl Who Cried Wolf 
"If you want to make the people around you happy, you must find your happiness first."

You cannot give what you don't have. If you're not happy yourself, there is no happiness within you, you cannot make the people around you happy. 

So find your own happiness first then you can make the people around you happy as well. 

7. Season 1 Episode 12: Romeo and Juliet
"So instead of being so impatient, why don't we both try and overcome the fear together."

I am an advocate of mental health. And I can't wait that the stigma of mental illness will be break in our society today. Grateful for this kind of show and this scene that shows it's okay to seek professional help.

8. Season 1 Episode 15: A Tale of Two Brothers 
"Writing fairytales is the only way Mun-young communicate with the world. It's the only way she can talk and breathe." 

Writers - including myself can relate to this. We write to convey the message we wish we could say out loud. 

Writing is my way of coping from stressful life experiences. 

The first novel I published in wattpad was a product of my first heartbreak. The heartbreak in real life turned into a happy ending in that novel. 

Even the blog articles I post are all products of my real-life experiences. The testing turned into testimonies with a purpose to inspire other people. 

9. Season 1 Episode 16: Finding the Real Face
"I just want to hit the road with no destination in mind and keep on driving freely without worrying about the future." 

I include this one also because this is something I want to do, to hit the road with no destination in mind. And since I don't have a camping car, backpacking will do for now. 

What's your favorite line in It's Okay to not be Okay?